In schools, and special education classrooms, and filing cabinets all over Wake County sit green folders. Thousands of them are locked away for safe-keeping, marked with names of students, and filled with IEPs documenting needs and growth and goals. Teachers, principals, and parents join together to create these individualized files, pouring uncanny amounts of time and information into them.
Of the nineteen-thousand green folders belonging to Wake County Public Schools (WCPSS), my signature can be found in a handful of them. From the students I've taught, to the meetings I've sat in on, I've spent my fair share of time devoted to these sacred green beings. I've cried over a few of them, stressed over most of them, and celebrated the strengths in all of them. While a few will always stand out as the "special ones", none will hold a candle to the newest green folder in Wake County's collection.
Ethan's.
As he currently receives therapies through our local Children's
Developmental Services Agency (CDSA), and those services will end when
he turns three (in just
four months!), WCPSS is stepping
in. He has already been referred to the school system, and evaluations
will begin at the end of this month to see if he will be eligible for
services through them.
It's an odd thing, being on the other side of the table - to step out of the role of "case manager" and into the role of "parent" - but it's happening. Although I gave up my days of managing green folders when I left my special education job a year and a half ago, it seems as though those emerald beauties aren't quite finished with me yet.
I've been spending nap-times and night-times filling out personal information, explaining medical conditions, and answering awkwardly asked questions. While I did my best to
sympathize with my students' parents during my teaching days, only now can I really
empathize with them. Only now can I wonder what my answer will say to a group of strangers about my child - can I feel anxiety about them not seeing what I see (or vice versa). While I may understand the system more than my students' parents, our hearts are the same. Whether I'm a former special education teacher, or an immigrant hoping to gain U.S. citizenship, I want exactly what they wanted.
Only the best for my child.
It's going to be an interesting process, for sure - learning to switch hats - and I'm sure I'll need a few deep breaths along the way. But, it's also an exciting time. I enjoyed reading my students' evaluations because it was an official celebration of their growth, and a map for where to go next. I am a "results" person, no doubt, and this evaluation will give Jeramie and myself the facts we need to continue to do all we can for our son.
Only time (and a few evaluations) will tell if Ethan's green folder will follow him for the years to come, or if it will find its way to the inactive pile. Pray for us (
um, me) over the weeks and months to come - that I'll suppress the need to control the situation, that I won't get hung up on numbers and percentiles, and especially for my emotional state if it's determined that Ethan will start preschool in March.
Lord knows there will be some ugly cries happening that day.
